Main reason why I rarely do public commenting

One of the main reasons I don’t like to do public commenting on friends’ social media profiles is due to uninvited interruption. Some bees out there are likely to interrupt given any chance if your friend is attractive.

One such example is my conversation with Shujuan in one of her latest Instagram photos. She was telling me that she was lazy to wear contact lens and I teased her that she was just trying to avoid getting more admirers. One of her existing admirers could not maintain. He tagged me in his reply and said he disagreed with my obvious-tease because Shujuan had already mentioned that she was plain lazy.

Stating the obvious won’t help you to impress others.

Anyone with a right mind should see that I was just kidding. Needless to say, her admirer was simply trying to grab attention.

I have too many experiences dealing with attention seekers in the past and I know well one has to be very patient and free in order to reply to such people. In fact, by replying, we are just falling into their, intentional or not, tricks.

Before I did anything, which I didn’t even intend to, the babe had already intercepted to stop us. I was a little irritated not because of the words but the way this guy interrupted.

If any guy wants to grab attention from any of his many dream girls, he better leaves me out of his drama. If he mistakes that I’m in the race with him to get her, I guess I will not be able to do anything because I’m not giving up any friendship for anyone, let alone a clown.

People always welcome more comments and replies on their social media profiles. For now, when I cannot even manage my own time, I will try to stay out of troubles although it will definitely distant me from many friends.

Birthday and Friends

Another year had passed and things had remained almost stagnant. There was neither surprise nor excitement. More friends had gone quieter or probably found their fun in other places.

This was the first time my mum was absent in Singapore on my birthday. There was nothing sad about it but merely a new experience to be noted.

The usual trend in this era when social media was dominating was to receive birthday greeting in Facebook. People did find comfort when they received overwhelming wishes from their contacts. As unpractical as it could be, I did not turn off comments by friends because there were reasons to continue receiving the well-wishes.

The greatest advantage of enabling comments from friends on birth date itself was to communicate. We made new friends over the years and strayed away from the old ones, including those we used to chat with daily. It was the best excuse to regain some momentum with friends when they started posting “happy birthday”.

Another reason to be vain was to be able to judge people. Sometimes we had acquaintances who added us into their friend list and we did the same to others whom we found interesting or pretty. Over time, we had too many strangers on the friend list. Besides, we were also uncertain over which old friends would bother about us. Receiving a short text could greatly assure that we did worth something in our friends’ hearts; at least they bothered to sacrifice a few seconds of their time and some energy to move their hands in order to make our days better.

This was the main reason why I had bothered to spend time sending greetings to my friends on their birthdays. It was one of the easiest ways to do my part as a friend to make their lives happier. I doubted everyone would appreciate but I knew I had done my best as a friend or net friend.

The biggest problem with social media network was that not everyone would log in daily even though most young people should have owned an account at least. With the emerging of more platforms such as Twitter, the concentration of users had been diverted or split. As life got more hectic, we began to find friends missing in action from social media.

Social media was kind of an imaginary third dimension. This was the reason why popular school debates had included whether social media was bringing people closer or distancing them away. There was no definite answer.

On my birthday, I had my elder brother and his girlfriend treating me to lunch while Gilbert and Titus showering me with food for dinner. It was far from what my greedy heart had expected. I had the same wishful thinking as most people on their birthdays but I was not lucky enough.

I do not need to own the whole world but just one… just be free for me.