If you have been trying to ask some friends out for years but they always claim to be too busy, the reason is obvious.
Keep trying and you would only be disgracing yourself, which the Chinese would say “自取欺辱” (You are asking for the insult).
We eventually get to realise who are our true friends after the long period of experiment.
Rejections from friends can be hurting, and rejection from a special someone is far worse. When repeated failures have eliminated all hopes, a causal question could actually wake the drunkard sober to realise his dream is nothing but a tale.
The needle pierces through the body, right into the heart. There is nothing but blood.